Have you ever been to a friend’s house only to find their toddler running frantically around their dining room set in a mad tantrum? If so, you also probably though to yourself that never in a million years would your own child do that. Well, think again. Tantrums are an ordinary part of growing.
Tantrums are a release of a toddler’s frustrations of a stressful, or buildup of stressful, situations. Stressful in a toddler’s case can be: not getting the snack when they want it, or a broken toy or more attention given to a brother or sister by the main caretaker. Tantrums shouldn’t be taken personally, because they are usually an expression of frustration. The next time your toddler pulls the king quilt from your bed in a rage, try to put his/her actions in perspective.
Challenges are great ways to help your child grow. However, if a challenge becomes a frustration it can also turn into a tantrum. Try to be present when your child is tackling a challenging puzzle or game. Try to move things along with helpful hints when things are at a standstill. This will help prevent tough frustrations.
Avoid instances of running along round dining room sets by your toddler by recognizing the precursors of a tantrum. When does your toddler throw a tantrum? Is there a particular time or setting when tantrums occur? Maybe when you are giving more attention to a younger sibling, or when you are busy in the kitchen?
When you know what causes a tantrum you can work to prevent it. For example, if you find that whenever you are in the grocery store for too long your child becomes tired and overwhelmed. As a result, a tantrum occurs. Plan for shorter trips, and keep healthy snacks on hand.
Keep track of what your toddler eats. Too often, sweets can heighten blood sugar levels and you will have to deal with mood swings as a result. Avoid caffeine in your child because this can have an affect that lasts for hours.
Listen to your toddler! Imagine trying to express yourself to someone important in your life, but they are preoccupied or do not give you the time to listen to what you have to say. As an adult, you would probably get frustrated as well. So listen to your toddler, express your feelings of empathy and make him/her feel heard. This can help release frustrations and prevent tantrums.
