sarah asked:
All kids do it, I know. But what is the best way to handle the good ole, “that’s mine” fight between children. When your child is SO possessive over his/her things. When he/she hates anyone even looking at her toys when they are not there. Is there a bigger issue there? Or is it kids just being kids? And what’s the best way to handle that?
Anibal
All kids do it, I know. But what is the best way to handle the good ole, “that’s mine” fight between children. When your child is SO possessive over his/her things. When he/she hates anyone even looking at her toys when they are not there. Is there a bigger issue there? Or is it kids just being kids? And what’s the best way to handle that?
Anibal
April 11th, 2008 - 8:03 am
Easy, just cut to the chase and discipline
April 12th, 2008 - 10:57 pm
I think it’s just kids being kids for the most part. You just keep telling them to share and eventually they catch on. (And I be sure to remind them about the sharing concept when they want to use something of mine.)
April 13th, 2008 - 1:41 pm
When I was a kid my mother would take things away (usually for weeks at a time) if I got too possessive over them. Believe me, it only happened a couple of times until I figured out that not sharing only hurts in the end. I remember for my birthday I got a walkman (lol) and when I didn’t let my cousin listen to it, I had it taken away for a month. Now that *****! But, I learned my lesson.
April 14th, 2008 - 5:10 pm
my boys do the same. one is not playing with a toy until the other one gets it. then they fight. you have to keep telling them to share. good luck.
April 16th, 2008 - 8:22 am
personally, I do not believe in giving children toys. I think over the years society has placed way too much importance on games and things of that sort. puzzles, books, legos, etc are good for children to play with because they use their imagination and become involved with themselves, rather than other children. I think the reason the child is possessive is because they have been giving too many toys to play with. I hope this helps, children can be tough to read, I strongly doubt that this is a big issue. sometimes kids go through a phase.
April 16th, 2008 - 11:09 am
How old is the child? Around age 3 I think the possessive child can have some special toys that he/she doesn’t want anyone to play with, but not all of them. The “special” toys should be removed when playdates, cousins, etc. are over and not even played with by the child. But you should sit down the the possessive child and pick a good amount of toys that he/she is willing to share with other children at anytime. And if that child has a problem when the time comes to “share” those toys, necessary discipline should be taken.
I think if the situation is handled right, the child will grow out of this stage and when he/she realizes that the toys are being played with nicely and no one is taking them home he/she will be willing to share his/hers most beloved toys with other children.
My son who is now 8 used to be possessive about his toys because he has 5 cousins who were consistently over our house and they would loose pieces to his toys and sometimes some would break. We did the above and it worked out great. Now that he is older, he shares all of his toys with his cousins , except when the little ones come overbecause they aren’t age appropriate and can break, we just put those away. He just likes to take care of his things and make them last. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, hopefully he will carry that on to adult hood and appreciate the things that he has and take good care of them.
April 17th, 2008 - 7:48 pm
2 steps
warn..take away