Being parents is a life process not many are actually prepared for that until that moment comes so people seriously start thinking about how to go for that. When it comes to decision making there are other factors that will influence that such as culture, education and e.
In Europe for instance. In South Europe, fir instance, smacking kids is quite ordinary and not many people will disregard it as a way to treat children if they are misbehaving. However, that behaviour is completely unacceptable and will be seriusly disapproved in northern European countries where such an action could lead to parents being in serious trouble. In countries where protestant ethics have shaped societies there is a more liberal and relaxed attitude towards acceptable children behaviour and people seem to be more tolerant compared to the South of Europe.
Kids are being treated as adults, and an extremely rational attitude is being used during their whole upbringing. That behaviour has potential benefits when it comes to making someone independent from a very early stage but at the same time there are certain emotional gaps created that in some cases will later generate great issues for the individual as an adult.
Another typical example is children’s play. In the north, kids play is more open and there is probably more freedom so kids can freely play outdoors, get their nice clothes dirty, walk barefoot etc whereas in the South that would be unacceptable as parents would go hysteric about how their kids’ appearance. A severe punishment would follow after accidentally breaking a glass vase in the living room, say in Italy, while in Holland the parents would just advice their kid smiling not to do it again. I will never forget my mum’s anger after smashin some lsa glasses that I used as a mini basket, playing some sort of basketball with it. Looking at it from a parent’s perspective, I cannot really understand what the point would be into making my kids life a hell just because they broke some glassware.
In my opinion there’s no better or worse attitude towards acceptable kids behaviour and what can be tolerated or not. It’s more about how parents can control their anger and not try to transmit to their kids, their neurosis causes byu their daily routine.
