Nana B asked:
Why is it ok to ask for honeymoon money at a wedding and not college fund money for kids?
Jim
Why is it ok to ask for honeymoon money at a wedding and not college fund money for kids?
Jim
My kids have to many toys I need a poem that asks invites not to bring gifts but cash for kids college fund?
Posted January 15th, 2008 by admin
January 16th, 2008 - 8:05 am
Asking or inviting a gift-giver to bring cash is tacky. If someone asks you what would be a good present for your kids, just tell them, “Well, they don’t need any more toys.” Most people will get the hint.
January 17th, 2008 - 4:49 pm
It’s very rude to specify what give you’d like to recieve on an invite. You can ask that no gifts be given or you can specify to anyone who asks that cash or savings bonds would be best. I know a family who requested that money be given so the child could purchase a computer. Most people chose not to attend the party and people talked about them behind their backs for months.
January 20th, 2008 - 12:05 pm
There’s no way to make this request politely, poetry or not.
You’re right, of course, that our kids need future savings, not another plastic gimcrack. And yet, for many people, buying and giving a gift that the child can enjoy is part of the pleasure.
The only thing you *can* do is discretely mention your preference to any guests who ask, or perhaps, have your mother or maybe sister spread the word among family members.
Short of that, you have no choice but to enjoy the madness of another dozen blinking, shrieking, useless toys. In fact, I’ve found that even people who *do* contribute to our son’s savings, usually still buy him something to open.
If you really can’t stand the onslaught of gifts, you *can* politely requests donations to a favorite charity in lieu of gifts. But that really only works if the child is bigger and has a legitimate interest in pets or trees or what have you.
January 22nd, 2008 - 1:59 pm
I don’t blame you, but really, it is kind of tacky to tell people what kind of gifts to give. A gift is…well, it’s a gift, and nobody has to bring anything, let alone exactly what you request.
(Happy Birthday to them anyway.)
January 22nd, 2008 - 8:16 pm
Open a trust fund people can donate to………but remember that kids like toys and new ones are always exciting…Donate some to charity if they have to many !
January 24th, 2008 - 7:55 am
that’s completly mean to your children and rude to the guests who look forward to seeing a child’s face when they open a gift they love from them
make them give away the toys they dont play with anymore (limit how may toys they can have period)and anything that’s not worth giving away just throw it out
this will teach them to give not just to take and that in order to get something new they need to rid of old things first
January 25th, 2008 - 7:37 pm
I think that if you do not wish to receive toys as gifts you could always say something like gift cards are greatly appreciated. then your guests will know that you can use it for other things your children need.Personally I don’t know how comfortable i would be giving cash for a present.I know that my sister used to get cash gifts and most of the money never even reached my nephews hands or even his needs.Not to say that this is the case at all.But you can never tell what other people may think.
January 27th, 2008 - 10:39 am
I think you could write on your invites
‘no gift necessary, but please feel free to make a donation to a charity of your personal choice in my son’s/daughters name - many thanks for your kind generosity’
any alternative would be rude!
January 29th, 2008 - 1:02 am
Well, i can see both sides of this. But being a mom with a kid that has lots of crap, I totally understand where your coming from.
If I got an invite that said don’t worry about buying toys but if you would like to donate to johnny’s college fund donations can be made to such and such bank… blah blah
I wouldn’t mind it at all.
I actually think its a good idea. As long as I believed and knew the money was going into johnny’s fund. If I thought there was even a doubt a parent would get it, I would be insulted.
You could also just ask his actually family to do this for him and let his little friends bring a toy or something. You kid might like to have a few things to open.